Two Dads are Better than None

The adventures of two very adorable gay men trying to become fathers in a crazy ass world

 

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by MARLO BARNHART  marlob@herald-mail.com

Editor's note: Each Sunday, The Herald-Mail will run "A Life Remembered." This continuing series will take a look back - through the eyes of family, friends, co-workers and others - at a member of the community who died recently. Today's "A Life Remembered" is about Henry Huston J, who died June 29 at the age of 88. His obituary appeared in the June 30 editions of The Morning Herald and The Daily Mail.


Joyce J Jones remembers how after church on Sundays, she and her siblings would be sent out to put fliers on cars around Hagerstown, advertising their father's fledgling business.

That was in the early 1950s, when H. J Blacktop was in its infancy and its co-founder, Henry Huston J, was working hard to make a go of the new enterprise, which boasted just five workers at that time.

Now known as J Paving Co., the family-owned firm employs more than 50.

Henry Huston J died June 29 at the age of 88.

"Even when he started the business, daddy was also working for the Western Maryland Railway, selling real estate and rehabbing apartments," said his surviving son, Ronnie H. J.

Henry retired from J Paving in 1973. Dave J, Henry's brother and co-founder of the business, currently is superintendent. Henry's son, Ronnie, and his three sons, Dale, Kevin and Ronnie, also are involved in the family business.

Though retired from the paving business more than 32 years ago, Henry stayed active in railroading until 1980.

"Daddy earned 75 cents an hour," son Ronnie said of Henry's early days on the railroad. He mostly worked in the roundhouse, and later on train accident cleanup crews.

Joyce described her father as a workaholic who was built like an ox. Born in Hagerstown, she said she was "raised" by older siblings, Ronnie and Geraldine J Andrews, both of whom had been born in West Virginia.

"Ronnie and I raised ourselves," Geraldine added.

Henry also had two other sons, Harold and Jimmy, now deceased.

While visiting family in Texas in the early 1980s, Henry was introduced to his second wife by his daughter.

"I brought my dad to meet Reba," Geraldine said.

A senior sales manager for Home Interiors and Gifts in Dallas, Reba was in her mid-50s when she first met the widower from Hagerstown.

"He was 65 then, but he looked so young," Reba said.

It was Christmas Eve 1981 when Reba's own personal Santa Claus came into her life - a man she married two years later, then moved with to Hagerstown.

"I never dreamed I'd ever leave Texas," Reba said as she looked back over her 23 years with Henry. But this "lovely man" worked his magic on her.

Reba said she had no children, and no brothers or sisters.

"I got a family in the bargain when I married Henry," she said.

Born in Tennessee, Henry was the oldest of eight children, many of whom he took care of in those early years.

"He only finished the fourth or fifth grade, but he was very sharp," Geraldine said. "If you got into a debate with him, you'd better come prepared."

Son Ronnie said his father's optimism was a leading characteristic.

"I called it his can-do attitude," Joyce said.

Grandson Ronnie described him as a major tinkerer.

"He was always into something," he said.

Once, Henry took two cars, cut them apart and put them together into one strange-looking vehicle.

There also was a big white Buick that Henry drove, piling his grandsons on board for fishing and swimming outings that will stand out forever.

In 1993, Henry had a stroke.

"I've been giving up little bits of Henry ever since then," Reba said. "But I wouldn't take anything in the world to have missed this experience."

1. Save the whales. Collect the whole set.

2. A day without sunshine is like night.

3. On the other hand, you have different fingers

4. 42.7 percent of all statistics are made up on the spot.

5. 99 % of lawyers give the rest a bad name.

6. Remember, half the people you know are below average.

7. He who laughs last thinks slowest.

8. Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.

9. The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese in the trap.

10. Support bacteria. They're the only culture some people have.

11. A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.

12. Change is inevitable, except from vending machines.

13. If you think nobody cares, try missing a couple of payments. 1. Save the whales. Collect the whole set.

2. A day without sunshine is like night.

3. On the other hand, you have different fingers

4. 42.7 percent of all statistics are made up on the spot.

5. 99 % of lawyers give the rest a bad name.

6. Remember, half the people you know are below average.

7. He who laughs last thinks slowest.

8. Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.

9. The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese in the trap.

10. Support bacteria. They're the only culture some people have.

11. A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.

12. Change is inevitable, except from vending machines.

13. If you think nobody cares, try missing a couple of payments.
14. How many of you believe in psycho-kinesis? Raise my hand.

15. OK, so what's the speed of dark?

16. When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

17. Hard work pays off in the future. Laziness pays off now.

18. Every one has a photographic memory. Some just don't have film

19. How much deeper would the ocean be without sponges?

20. Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines

21. What happens if you get scared half to death twice?

22. I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder.

23. Why do psychics have to ask you for your name?

24. Inside every older person is a younger person wondering what happened?

25. Just remember - if the world didn't suck, we would all fall off.

26. Light travels faster than sound. That's why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

27. Life isn't like a box of chocolates. . It's more like a jar of jalapenos. What you do today, might burn your butt tomorrow

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